Hey there,
There's a version of you that shows up to work and a version that shows up to church. Both are competent. Both are dialed in. And a lot of guys I talk to have quietly figured out that those two men have never actually met each other.
One handles things. The other says the right words. Neither one is the whole guy.
That gap is what this month's read is about. It's live right now.
The Guy at Work and the Guy at Church Have Never Met
It's about the split most men run on without ever naming it, and what it quietly costs. No fixing. No five steps. Just plain talk about something real.
Read it nowWhat Is Man to Man?
Man to Man is a short read I put out once a month. No newsletter fluff, no churchy windup. Just one honest piece about something men actually carry. The grind. The mask. The father stuff. The friendships that went quiet. The kind of thing we don't say out loud but most of us are dealing with anyway.
It's free. Read the ones you want, skip the ones you don't. See them all here.
Say the true version. Once.
Pick one conversation this week. When the guy asks how you're doing, skip "good, busy." Give him the honest version of how you're doing instead. Just once.
Notice what it costs you to say it. Notice what it doesn't cost him to hear it. That gap, the one between what's true and what you usually say, is the whole thing.
The Outrider
Joseph Mize has spent years doing this work, the medic, real-story kind, in the same Wild at Heart world we come out of. His book is out: The Outrider: Become the Man You Needed. Healing, fatherhood, and the long work of growing into the man you wish you'd had.
He also put the story to music, and he talks the whole thing through on his own podcast. Read it, listen to it, or ride along on the podcast. Whatever you'll actually pick up.
- BookRead it on Amazon
- AlbumListen on Spotify
- PodcastThe Outrider podcast
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That's it for this month. Go say the true version once. See what happens.
Strength and honor,
John Pulley
Executive Director, ManAlive Expedition
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